'A'ishah belonged to a prestigious family in the tribe of
Quraysh named Banu Taym. The members of this family were known for their
generosity, good manners, and good treatment of women.
The families lived in a realm of love and peace. The most
outstanding member of Banu Taym was Abu Bakr bin Abi Quhafa, 'A'ishah's father.
He was a well-to- do merchant who was kind and easy to talk to. His acquaintance
with the people of Quraysh extended to all of them, and his knowledge of the
tribe's history and that of other tribes, as well as poetry and genealogy, was,
profound. Abu Bakr's wisdom led him to respond quickly to his friend Muhammad's
call for Islam. He did not hesitate to believe in the new religion or to do his
best to support it.
Before the revelation came, Abu Bakr was an honorable man.
After it, and having believed in it, his honorability only multiplied, as he
was the second man in the Muslim community and was later elected for his trustworthiness
as the caliph after the Prophet (peace be upon him).
Abu Bakr was married to a woman named Umm Ruman, who
belonged to the tribe of Kinanah. She was also of good manners and sincere in
her faith like her husband. The Prophet (peace be upon him) made reference to
her when he said, "Whoever is pleased to see one of the maidens of
Paradise (houri), let him look at Umm Ruman."
It was with the cherishing nature of such great parents
that 'A'ishah was brought up. She was more privileged than others because when
she was born, her parents were already Muslim. From the time she first opened
her eyes she saw her parents praying and working in da'wah. When she could
first hear, she heard the voices of her parents reading Qur'an. Her father
recited Qur'an in such a touching manner that he or his listener would be induced
to cry. The Quraysh were afraid lest his recitation should impress people, so
they endeavored to stop him from reading aloud.
Abu Bakr's family was honored by the Prophet's frequent
visits. He (peace be upon him) used to visit Abu Bakr daily to discuss the
issues of da'wah while 'A'ishah would watch and listen. It was precisely the
way her parents showed respect and reverence to the Prophet (peace be upon him)
that nurtured a deep love and respect for him in her heart.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) also showed a notable
interest in 'A'ishah, as he saw signs of intelligence in her from her early
days. He often said to her mother, "Take good care of 'A'shah, Umm
Those brief words showed his admiration of 'A'ishah.
Allah blessed that amiable child by having her brought up
in a home of the Quraysh, full of honor and culture that was the second
household to embrace Islam after the Prophet's. But she was endowed with a nobler
status when she was chosen by Allah to be the wife of His Prophet while she was
still a child. Thus, her life was set as an example for Muslim families.
The life of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was
like an open book in which no secret was kept from any of the Muslims. He was
the ideal example to follow. Even in the most intricate details of his life
they followed him in worship, jihad, social and family affairs, and other
aspects. Consequently, his life with 'A'ishah was for the knowledge of
The first lesson was the marriage. She married the Prophet
(peace be upon him), the noblest of nobles, yet in a very humble house, if it
could even be called that. It was a single room built of unbaked bricks and
palm leaves, with a leather curtain for a door. The furniture was made of
leather stuffed with felt and placed on a rug. That was the house of the bride
who was the Mother of the Faithful and the wife of the last Messenger; a house
of unbaked bricks, palm leaves, and leather bedding stuffed with felt! In fact,
Allah directed His Messenger to such a humble life.
'A'ishah received a very humble dower of five hundred dirhams
despite her noble origin, distinguished beauty, and manners. But that humble
dower was merely symbolic. It was not from an ordinary man to an ordinary woman
but from the noblest of all humanity and Allah's Messenger to the daughter of
an outstanding rich man of Banu Taym and Quraysh.
Why don't men and women of today follow that example of the
great Messenger to all people? Why should they exaggerate the dower to such an
extent that it hinders young men from marriage or at least delays it till they
are financially capable. Marriage has now become like a tax, the colossal rates
of dowers resulting in a higher rate of young, unmarried women, which will
sooner or later lead society to moral chaos.
Don't we have a more fitting example in the Messenger of
Allah? So, why don't we follow it? The Muslim society has suffered as a result
of this behavior. When will there be good men and women to reconsider this
So, how was the wedding party of this noble woman and the
Messenger of all humanity? 'A'ishah herself related the events of that day:
Neither a camel nor a sheep was slaughtered for my wedding
until Sa'd bin 'Ubadah sent us the dish that he was in the habit of sending to
the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)
Thus, no camels or sheep were slaughtered especially for
the bride. The only fare available was the usual bowl of food that one of the
Companions used to present to the Prophet (peace be upon him) every day. The meal
was basic. Such simplicity in the wedding and dower should really be an example
for us to follow
The family is the cornerstone of the compassionate Muslim
society. But as we can see. modern and alien marriage customs can be a real
threat to the making of families.
Although 'A'ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) was the
wife of the Prophet (peace be upon him) and the daughter of Abu Bakr As-Siddiq
and Umm Ruman, who was described as the maiden of Paradise, she still had feelings
of jealousy shared by all women. She loved her
husband and, in her jealous manner, hated him thinking of any
of his other wives. Many accounts of 'A'ishah's jealousy can be traced in her
Allah permitted 'A'ishah's life to be an open book for men
to learn how to treat their wives and be patient with their shortcomings. This
is taking into consideration that 'A'ishah was higher in morality than any
We are not going to relate examples of her jealousy of the
co-wives who lived in the adjoining rooms, but we will mention her jealousy of
the wife she never saw, namely Khadijah.
His love for Khadijah caused the Prophet (peace be upon
him) to always speak in her favor and be generous to her friends in honor of
her memory. Even many years after her death, he still held the same love and
respect for her. But this set 'A'ishah's heart on fire, and one day she lost her
self-control and said to him, "What makes you remember one of the old
women of the Quraysh with a toothless mouth of red gums who died long ago, and
in whose place Allah has given you someone better than her?" (Bukhari,
She loved her husband and was not to blame for her
jealousy, as she had an unrivalled man. But still, her words angered the
Prophet (peace be upon him), who replied, "No, by Allah, Allah has not
given me one better in her place. She believed in me when people belied me. She
comforted me with her money when people deprived me, and from her alone I had
Although 'A'ishah regretted her behavior towards the memory
of Khadijah, her jealousy was unrelenting. Therefore, men should not blame
women for having this jealous trait in them.
During her life in the Prophet's house, she watched him,
listened to him, and accompanied him in the battlefields. Everything she saw
and heard was understood in the fullest sense and deepened her knowledge in religion.
'A'ishah lived a long time after the death of the Prophet
(peace be upon him). She was an authority to all those Muslims who sought
knowledge in many issues of their religion.
Her knowledgeable manner benefited all those around her and
the number of hadiths she narrated from the Prophet (peace be upon him)
exceeded those of all the other Mothers of the Faithful.
Imam Az-Zahri said concerning her, "lf 'A'ishah' knowledge
of religion is compared to the knowledge of all the Prophet's wives as well as
the knowledge of some women in the world, it will be greater." Her
knowledge was not confined to hadith; it extended to poetry and
medicine. Abu Hisham bin 'Urwa narrated from his father, "l
have never seen anyone more knowledgeable in jurisprudence, medicine, and
poetry than 'A'ishah."
Her house became a destination for students to acquire
knowledge and convey it to the different cities. May Allah be pleased with her
and have mercy on her, as she faithfully kept the trust of the Prophet (peace
be upon him).