By: Aaidh ibn Abdullah Al-Qarnee


Inside Cover
About this Book
Publisher’s Note
Translators’ Foreword
Introduction to the First Edition (Of the Arabic Version)
O' Allah!
Contemplate and be thankful
The past is gone forever
Today is all that you have
Leave the future alone until it comes
How to deal with bitter criticism
Do not expect gratitude from anyone
Doing good to others gives comfort to the heart
Repel boredom with work
Do not be a mimicker
Pre-ordainment
Verily, with hardship, there is relief
Convert a lemon into a sweet drink
Is not He [better than your gods] Who responds to the distressed
Enough for you is your home
Your recompense is with Allah
Faith is life itself
Extract the honey but do not break the hive
Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest
Or do they envy men for what Allah Has given them of His Bounty?
Accept life as it is
Find consolation by remembering the afflicted
The prayer…..the prayer
Allah [Alone] is sufficient for us, and He Is the best Disposer of affairs [for us]
Patience is most fitting
Do not carry the weight of The globe on your shoulders
Do not be crushed by what is insignificant
Be content with that which Allah has given You and you will be the richest of people
Thus we have made you a just nation
Take a moment to reflect
Smile
Smile ----- Pause to reflect
The blessing of pain
The blessing of knowledge
The art of happiness
The art of happiness ---- Pause to reflect
Controlling one's emotions
The bliss of the Prophetic Companions
Repel boredom from your life
Cast of anxiety
Cast of anxiety - Pause to reflect
Do not be sad ---- Everything will occur According to pre-ordainment
Do not be sad ------ Wait patiently For a happy outcome
Wait patiently for a happy outcome - Pause to reflect
Do not be sad: Seek forgiveness from Allah Often, for your Lord is Oft-Forgiving
Do not be sad ----- Always remember Allah
Do not be sad ---- Never Lose hope of Allah's mercy
Grieve not over unworthy things
Do not be sad - Repel anxiety
Grieve not over being poor
D0 not feel sad over fears for what may happen
Stop to reflect
Do not be sad: overlook the actions of others.
Do not be sad --- Do good to others
Jealousy is not something new
Stop to reflect
Do not be sad from the want of ample provision
Appreciate that, compared to Others, your trial is light
Do not mimic the personality of others
Isolation and its positive effects
Do not be shaken by hardships
Pause to think about hardships
Do not be sad ---The fundamentals of happiness
Why grieve when you have the six ingredients?
The fundamentals of happiness ---- Verses upon which to reflect
Your best companion is a book
The benefits of reading
Pause to reject
Do not grieve ---- There is another life to come
Do not feel overly stressed When work piles up
Grieve not and ask yourself the following questions
Do not despair when you face a difficult situation
Contemplate these verses
Depression weakens the body and the soul
Depression: A cause of ulcers
Some other effects of depression
What depression and anger do
Bear your hardships with serenity
Hold a good opinion of your Lord
When your thoughts wander
Embrace constructive criticism
Most rumors are baseless
Gentleness averts confrontations
Yesterday will never return
This life does not deserve our grief
Ponder these points
As long as you have faith in Allah, don’t be sad
Do not grieve over trivialities For the entire world is trivial
This is how the world is
Strive to help others
Do not feel deprived as long as you have a loaf of Bread, a glass of water and clothes on your back
Blessings in disguise
You are created unique
Much that in appearance is harmful is in fact a blessing
Faith is the greatest remedy!
Do not lose hope
Don‘t be sad ---- Life is shorter than you think
As long as you have life’s basic Necessities --- Don‘t be sad
Contentment repels sadness
If you lose a limb, you still have others to compensate for it
The days rotate in bringing good and bad
Travel throughout Allah's wide earth
Contemplate these Prophetic sayings
In the last moments of life….
Do not let calamity shake you
Do not grieve ---- This world is not worth your
Don't be sad: Remember that you believe in Allah
Pause to reflect
Despair not --- Handicaps do not prevent success
If you embrace Islam, there is No reason for you to be sad
Things that bring about happiness
The ingredients of happiness
You will not die before your appointed time
""O"" Allah, Who is full of Majesty and Honor….""
Pause to reflect
Steps to take if you are fearful of a jealous person
Good manners
Sleepless nights
The evil consequences of sinning
Strive for your sustenance, but don't be covetous
The secret of guidance
Ten gems for a good and noble life
Don't be sad ---- Learn to deal with your reality
Don't be sad ---- Sooner or later Everything in this world perishes
Depression leads to misery
Depression may lead to suicide
Asking Allah for forgiveness opens locked doors
People should depend on you, and not you on them
Prudence
Do not cling to other than Allah
Doing those things that bring you peace
Preordainment
The sweet taste of freedom
Do not pay attention to the tell-tale
The curses of the foolish are Of no consequence to you
Appreciate the beauty of the universe
Avarice is of no avail
Allah [Alone] is sufficient for us, and He Is the best Disposer of affairs (for us]
The ingredients of happiness
The fatigue and stress that come with an important position
And come to the prayer
Charity brings peace to the giver
Don't be angry
Supplications of the morning
Pause to reflect
The Qur'an: The blessed book
Don't aspire to fame, or else you will be taxed with stress and worries
The good life
Bear trials patiently
Worship Allah by surrendering your will to Him
From being a governor to becoming a carpenter
Mixing with people whose company is Heavy and dull ruins a person's peace
For the calamity-stricken
The positive effects of having true Monotheistic faith in Allah
Take care of your outside as well as of your inside
Seek refuge with Allah
I place my complete trust in Him
They agree on three points
The wrongdoing of the transgressor
Khosrau and the old lady
A handicap in one area can be compensated For by excellence in another
A few words about the foolish
Faith in Allah is the way to salvation
Even the disbelievers are at different levels
An iron will
The inborn disposition upon which we were created
Whatever is written for you Will unerringly come to you
Work hard for the fruitful end
Your life is replete with priceless moments
Pause to reflect
Performing noble deeds is the way to happiness
Beneficial knowledge and fruitless knowledge
Read more, but with understanding And contemplation
Take account of yourself
Three mistakes that are common In our everyday lives
Plan your affairs and take proper precautions
Winning people over
Travel to different lands
Perform the late-night voluntary prayers
Your reward is Paradise
True love
The shari'ah is made easy for you
Tranquility and peace
Beware of ardent love
Some cures for ardent, unbridled love
The rights of brotherhood
Two secrets regarding sinning (Even if you know them, don't sin)
Seek out sustenance but don't be covetous
Pause to reflect
A religion that is full of benefits
Fear not! Surely, you will have the upper hand
Stay away from the following four….
In order to find peace, turn to your Lord
Two great words of solace
Some of the positive effects of experiencing hardship
Knowledge
Happiness is a Divine gift that does not Distinguish between the rich and the poor
Being remembered after death is a second life
Invoke Allah with the following
A Lord Who wrongs not
Write your own history
Listen attentively to the words of Allah
Everyone is searching for happiness, but….
Prepare for bad times by being Thankful when all is well
Bliss versus the Fire
Have we not opened your breast For you [O' Muhammad]?
A good life
What then is happiness?
To Him do the good words ascend
Such is the Seizure of your Lord
The supplication of the wronged
The importance of having a good friend
Fleeting glory
Performing virtuous deeds is the crown On the head of a happy life
Everlastingness and Paradise Are there, and not here!
Enemies of the Divine way
The reality of this life
The key to happiness
Pause to reflect
How they used to live
What the wise say about patience
The importance of a positive attitude
A few words on patience
Pause to reflect
Don’t grieve you are poor, for your true Value is not determined by your bank balance
A word on reading
Don’t be sad, and study Allah’s Signs in the creation
O’ Allah! O’ Allah!
Don’t grieve, for change must take place
Do not give pleasure to your Enemy by displaying grief
Optimism versus skepticism
O’ son of Adam, do not despair
Pause to reflect
Blessings in disguise
The fruits of contentment
Being pleased with Allah
For the malcontented there is wrath
The benefits one reaps by being contented
Do not challenge your Lord
A just decree
Resentment yields no return
Safety is in contentment
Dissatisfaction is the door to doubt
Satisfaction is richness and safety
The fruit of contentment is thankfulness
The fruit of discontentment is disbelief
Dissatisfaction is a trap of the devil
Another word on contentment
Overlooking the faults of one’s brothers
Take advantage of health and free time
Allah protects those who believe
Signposts on the seeker’s highway
Being blessed with honor is also a test
The enduring treasures
Determination can overcome Insurmountable barriers
Reading in order to learn wisdom
And when I am ill, it is He Who cures me
Take your precautions
Verify the facts yourself
Resolve to do something and then do it
The life of this world
Hiding from evil is a temporary solution
Remember that you are dealing With the Most Merciful
Optimism
Life is toil
Pause to reflect
Treading the middle path saves one from destruction
One is judged by one‘s dominant characteristics
One’s inborn character
It is not enough to be merely intelligent: One needs true guidance as well
If one has inner beauty, he will Discern beauty in the universe
Relief after hardship
You are above jealousy
Pause to reflect
Knowledge is the key to serenity and ease
The wrong way to go about things....
The noblest human being
One step at a time
Whether you have a little or a lot, Learn to be thankful
Three plaques
Pause to reflect
Be free from worry and fear
Deeds of charity
Recreation and relaxation
Pause to reflect
Contemplate the universe
Follow a studied plan
Do not be disorderly: in your affairs
Your value is determined by Your faith and character
The bliss of the Companions (May Allah be pleased with them)
Pause to reflect
A smile every morning
An obsession for revenge is poison That flows through a diseased soul
Pause to reflect
Do not melt into someone else’s personality
Waiting for relief from Allah
Pause to reflect
Guidance: A natural consequence of belief
The middle course
Avoiding extremes
Pause to reflect
Who are the righteous ones?
Allah is Most Kind to His slaves
And He will provide him from [sources] He never could imagine
An early: recompense
When you ask, ask Allah
Precious moments
Divine pre-ordainment
Death
Allah Alone is Ail-Powerful
Unexpected relief
Allah allows miracles to occur For His righteous slaves
Allah is All-Sufficient as a Disposer of affairs
Everything in the universe glorifies Allah
Be pleased with Allah
A call from the Nakhlah valley
The First generation of Muslims
Contentment even after being ruined
Be resolute in making a decision
The believer is firm and resolute
The tax on being an eloquent speaker
Perfect comfort and rest are in Paradise
Gentleness helps you achieve your goals
Anxiety does not help
Peace of mind is in having The basic necessities of life
Be prepared for the worst-case scenario
You are doing well you are healthy and have enough food
Don't belittle another person's efforts
Deal with others as you would Have them deal with you
Be fair
Avoid being artificial
If you really cannot do something, leave it
Do not be chaotic in your life
T he Mutual rivalry for piling up Of worldly things diverts you
Conclusion

Islambasics Library: Don't be Sad

Don't be sad ---- Learn to deal with your reality

 

In this life, if you inwardly disparage something you can't have, its value will diminish for you. And if you are contented with not getting something that you really wanted, then your heart will find solace.

 

('Allah will give as of His Bounty and [also] His Messenger' [from alms, etc. ]. We implore Allah [to enrich us].)  (Quran 9: 59)

 

I once read about a man who fell out of a window. The ring he was wearing became stuck around a nail that wasn't nailed down completely on the ledge, and consequently, his ring finger was pulled from its root, leaving him with four fingers. The amazing thing is not the incident itself, but the contentment shown by the man long after the accident, contentment that is illustrated in the following words,

 

"It hardly ever crosses my mind that I have four fingers on one hand or that I have lost a finger. It only comes back when I remember the accident. Otherwise, my work is going well and I am content with what happened?

 

"Allah has made His decree, and as He pleases, He does."

 

I know a man who lost his left arm as a result of a disease. He has lived for many years since: he got married and has children. He drives his car without difficulty and performs the various tasks of his work with ease. He is so at ease that it is as if Allah created him with only one arm to begin with.

 

"Be content with what Allah has portioned out for you and you will be the richest of people."

 

How quickly we adapt to our circumstances! And it is amazing how we adapt our thinking when a change in life-style is imposed upon us. Fifty years ago, a house consisted of a carpet made from palm tree leaves, a jug for water, a small amount of coal, and a few other paltry items. People managed as they do now, and a lack of resources or comfort did not make life any less important than it is now. An Arab poet said:

 

"The soul desires more if you encourage it, But it returns to contentment when it is disciplined?

 

A battle between two tribes in the central Mosque of Kufa broke out when members of each tribe began to hurl insults at the other tribe. A man who was in the Mosque stealthily made his escape in order to seek out Al-Ahnaf ibn Qays, who was recognized by all as a consummate peace-maker. The man found him in his house milking a goat. Al-Ahnaf was dressed in a garment that was not even worth ten dirhams (i.e. it was ragged and cheap). He was emaciated, haggard looking, and one of his legs was longer than the other, which gave him a bad limp. When he was informed of the news, no change became manifest on his countenance and he remained calm. This display of fortitude stems from the fact that Al-Ahnaf had witnessed much strife and hardship during his life, and consequently, he became used to such an occurrence. He told the man, "By the will of Allah, everything will be all right." He then began to take his breakfast as if nothing had happened. His breakfast consisted of a morsel of dry bread, oil, salt, and a glass of water. He mentioned Allah's name and ate. Then he praised Allah and said, "Wheat from Iraq, oil from Syria, water from Dajlah (Tigris), and salt from Merv. Verily, these are great blessings." He put on his clothes, took his walking stick, and made his way to the people. When they saw him, their gazes became fixed on him and they listened attentively to what he had to say. He said words of peace and of compromise, words that pleased both sides, and he requested them to depart and go their own ways. They all acquiesced and each of them left without a trace of rancor remaining in his heart, and in this way the ordeal ended peacefully. An Arab poet said:

"One can reach nobility even if His clothes are tattered and his pocket is patched."

 

There are many lessons to be learned from this narrative. One of them is that greatness is not in appearance or clothes; other lessons are that having few material possessions is not an indication of misery and that happiness does not reside in comfort and wealth.

 

(As for man, when his Lord tries him by giving him Honor and gifts, then he says [puffed up]: 'My Lord has honored me'. But when He tries him, by straitening his means of life, he says: 'My Lord has humiliated me!)

(Qur'an 89: l5 -16)

 

Another lesson we should take away from the narrative is that a person's character and qualities are the yardsticks of his worth, and not his clothes, shoes, or house. His worth is weighed by his knowledge, generosity, manners, and deeds.

 

(Verily, the most honorable of you with Allah is that [believer] who has At-Taqwa [who is pious].)  (Qur'an 49: 13)

 

The connection between the narrative and the subject matter of this book is that happiness is not found in opulence, mansions, gold, or silver; instead, happiness is something that manifests itself in the heart through faith, contentment, and knowledge.

 

(So let not their wealth or their children amaze you.) (Qur'an 9: 55)

 

(Say: 'ln the Bounty of Allah, and in His Mercy [i.e. Islam and the Qur'an], - therein let them rejoice.' That is better than what [the wealth] they amass) (Qur'an 10: 58)

 

Train yourself to surrender your will to whatever is decreed for you. What will you do if you do not believe in the decree of Allah?

 

Whatever you plan other than complete submission to Allah's Divine Decree will provide no benefit for you. And so, you may ask, what is the solution to hardships?

 

The solution is to say sincerely, "We are contented, pleased, and have surrendered our wills."

 

(Wheresoever you may be, death will overtake you even if you are in fortresses built up strong and high!)  (Qur'an 4: 78)

 

One of the most difficult days of my life, and a most painful day it was, was when the doctor told me that the arm of my brother Muhammad had to be amputated. The news fell upon my ears like thunder. l was overcome (with emotion) and my soul sought comfort in Allah's sayings:

 

(No calamity befalls. but with the Leave [i.e. decision and Qadar (Divine Preordainments)] of Allah, and whosoever believes in Allah, He guides his heart [to the true faith]...)  (Qur'an 64: 11)

 

(But give glad tidings to the patient ones. Who, when afflicted with calamity say: 'Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.) 

(Qur'an 2: l55-l56)

 

These verses instilled a sense of peace and comfort in my soul.

 

There is no form of artifice that can prevent from happening that which is decreed. Therefore we must keep faith and submit our wills.

 

(Or have they plotted some plan? Then We too are planning.)

(Qur'an 43: 79)

 

(And Allah has full power and control over His Affairs…)

(Qur'an 12: 21)

 

(When He decrees a matter: He only says to it: 'Be! ---  and it is.)

(Qur'an 2: 117)

 

Al-Khansaa an-Nakh'aiyah was told in one breath of the death of her four boys, who all died in the path of Allah, at the battle of Al-Qaadisiyah. Her only reaction was to praise Allah and thank Him for choosing what was best. Faith fortifies one's ability to persevere through hardship. And through gratitude, one achieves happiness in this life and in the Hereafter. lf you are loath to follow this advice, then ask yourself this: is there a viable alternative'? lf that alternative is bitterness, complaining, and a refusal to accept what has happened, then you will only bring upon yourself pain in this life and in the Hereafter.

 

"Whoever is contented, then for him is pleasure, and whoever (displays) anger, then for him is wrath."

 

The best remedy and course of action after a calamity is to say with sincerity, "Verily, We belong to Allah and indeed, to Him is our return." This means that we are all from Allah's creation; that we belong to Him; that we are in His kingdom; and that we shall return to Him. The beginning is with Him and the return is to Him. The whole affair is in the Hands of Allah.

 

An Arab poet said:

"My own soul that possesses things is itself departing, So why should I cry over a possession when it leaves."

 

Allah, the Exalted, said:

(Everything will perish save His Face.)  (Quran 28: 88)

 

(Whatsoever is on it [the earth] will perish.)  (Quran 55: 26)

 

(Verily, you [O' Muhammad] will die and verily they [too] will die.

(Quran 39: 30)

 

If you were shocked to learn that your house burned down, that your son died, or that your life's savings were lost, what would you do? From this moment, prepare yourself mentally. Trying to escape or elude what is decreed is a fruitless endeavor that brings no benefit. Be satisfied with what has been decreed, acknowledge your reality, and earn your reward. You have no other option. Sure, you might say that there is another option, but it is a base one and I warn you to stay clear from it: it is to complain and grumble, and to lose your composure by flaring into rage and anger. What can this attitude and - behavior possibly accomplish? You will earn anger from your Lord, and people will revile you. Furthermore, what you have lost will not return and your calamity will not be lightened for you:

 

(Let him stretch out a rope to the ceiling anal let him strangle himself Then let him see whether his plan will remove that whereat he rages!)         (Quran 22: 15)

 


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