Everything that has gentleness in it is beautified,
and whatever lacks it is spoiled. When you meet someone, giving him a bright smile
and a kind word, you are displaying a characteristic of the truly successful
man, a characteristic that even a bee exhibits. When a bee lands on a flower
(doing so for a practical purpose) it does not destroy it, because Allah
rewards gentleness with that which He does not give for harshness. There are
certain people, whose personalities are like magnets, attracting everyone who
is nearby, simply because they are loved for their gentle talk, their good manners,
and their noble deeds.
Winning the friendship of others is an art that is
mastered by those that are noble and pious; a circle of people constantly
surrounds them. Their mere presence in a gathering is a blessing, and when they
are absent they are missed and asked about.
These blessed people have a code of conduct entitled:
(Repel [the evil] with one which is better [i. e.
Allah ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger and to
excuse those who treat them badly, then verily He, between whom and you there
was enmity, [will become] as though he was a close hriend.lr (Quran 41: 34)
They suck out malice from others with their sincerity,
forgiveness, and gentleness. They forget evil that was enacted upon them and
preserve the memory of kindnesses received. Biting, harsh words may be aimed at
them, but such words pass by their ears without entering and continue on their
path without ever returning.
They are in a state of calmness. People in general,
and Muslims in particular, are safe from suffering any harm at their hands. The
Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said:
"The Muslim is the person whose tongue and hand
do not harm other Muslims. And the Believer is he whom others trust, with their
blood and wealth."
He (bpuh) also said:
"Verily, Allah ordered me to keep relations with
those that cut me off, to forgive the one who does an injustice with me, and to
give to those who withhold from me."
(Those who repress anger and who pardon men; verily
Allah loves the good-doers.)
(Quran 3: 134)
Give to such people glad tidings of an imminent reward
in this world, in terms of peace and tranquility.
Also give glad tidings to them of a great reward in
the Hereafter, of Paradise, wherein they will be in close proximity to their