By: Aaidh ibn Abdullah Al-Qarnee


Inside Cover
About this Book
Publisher’s Note
Translators’ Foreword
Introduction to the First Edition (Of the Arabic Version)
O' Allah!
Contemplate and be thankful
The past is gone forever
Today is all that you have
Leave the future alone until it comes
How to deal with bitter criticism
Do not expect gratitude from anyone
Doing good to others gives comfort to the heart
Repel boredom with work
Do not be a mimicker
Pre-ordainment
Verily, with hardship, there is relief
Convert a lemon into a sweet drink
Is not He [better than your gods] Who responds to the distressed
Enough for you is your home
Your recompense is with Allah
Faith is life itself
Extract the honey but do not break the hive
Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest
Or do they envy men for what Allah Has given them of His Bounty?
Accept life as it is
Find consolation by remembering the afflicted
The prayer…..the prayer
Allah [Alone] is sufficient for us, and He Is the best Disposer of affairs [for us]
Patience is most fitting
Do not carry the weight of The globe on your shoulders
Do not be crushed by what is insignificant
Be content with that which Allah has given You and you will be the richest of people
Thus we have made you a just nation
Take a moment to reflect
Smile
Smile ----- Pause to reflect
The blessing of pain
The blessing of knowledge
The art of happiness
The art of happiness ---- Pause to reflect
Controlling one's emotions
The bliss of the Prophetic Companions
Repel boredom from your life
Cast of anxiety
Cast of anxiety - Pause to reflect
Do not be sad ---- Everything will occur According to pre-ordainment
Do not be sad ------ Wait patiently For a happy outcome
Wait patiently for a happy outcome - Pause to reflect
Do not be sad: Seek forgiveness from Allah Often, for your Lord is Oft-Forgiving
Do not be sad ----- Always remember Allah
Do not be sad ---- Never Lose hope of Allah's mercy
Grieve not over unworthy things
Do not be sad - Repel anxiety
Grieve not over being poor
D0 not feel sad over fears for what may happen
Stop to reflect
Do not be sad: overlook the actions of others.
Do not be sad --- Do good to others
Jealousy is not something new
Stop to reflect
Do not be sad from the want of ample provision
Appreciate that, compared to Others, your trial is light
Do not mimic the personality of others
Isolation and its positive effects
Do not be shaken by hardships
Pause to think about hardships
Do not be sad ---The fundamentals of happiness
Why grieve when you have the six ingredients?
The fundamentals of happiness ---- Verses upon which to reflect
Your best companion is a book
The benefits of reading
Pause to reject
Do not grieve ---- There is another life to come
Do not feel overly stressed When work piles up
Grieve not and ask yourself the following questions
Do not despair when you face a difficult situation
Contemplate these verses
Depression weakens the body and the soul
Depression: A cause of ulcers
Some other effects of depression
What depression and anger do
Bear your hardships with serenity
Hold a good opinion of your Lord
When your thoughts wander
Embrace constructive criticism
Most rumors are baseless
Gentleness averts confrontations
Yesterday will never return
This life does not deserve our grief
Ponder these points
As long as you have faith in Allah, don’t be sad
Do not grieve over trivialities For the entire world is trivial
This is how the world is
Strive to help others
Do not feel deprived as long as you have a loaf of Bread, a glass of water and clothes on your back
Blessings in disguise
You are created unique
Much that in appearance is harmful is in fact a blessing
Faith is the greatest remedy!
Do not lose hope
Don‘t be sad ---- Life is shorter than you think
As long as you have life’s basic Necessities --- Don‘t be sad
Contentment repels sadness
If you lose a limb, you still have others to compensate for it
The days rotate in bringing good and bad
Travel throughout Allah's wide earth
Contemplate these Prophetic sayings
In the last moments of life….
Do not let calamity shake you
Do not grieve ---- This world is not worth your
Don't be sad: Remember that you believe in Allah
Pause to reflect
Despair not --- Handicaps do not prevent success
If you embrace Islam, there is No reason for you to be sad
Things that bring about happiness
The ingredients of happiness
You will not die before your appointed time
""O"" Allah, Who is full of Majesty and Honor….""
Pause to reflect
Steps to take if you are fearful of a jealous person
Good manners
Sleepless nights
The evil consequences of sinning
Strive for your sustenance, but don't be covetous
The secret of guidance
Ten gems for a good and noble life
Don't be sad ---- Learn to deal with your reality
Don't be sad ---- Sooner or later Everything in this world perishes
Depression leads to misery
Depression may lead to suicide
Asking Allah for forgiveness opens locked doors
People should depend on you, and not you on them
Prudence
Do not cling to other than Allah
Doing those things that bring you peace
Preordainment
The sweet taste of freedom
Do not pay attention to the tell-tale
The curses of the foolish are Of no consequence to you
Appreciate the beauty of the universe
Avarice is of no avail
Allah [Alone] is sufficient for us, and He Is the best Disposer of affairs (for us]
The ingredients of happiness
The fatigue and stress that come with an important position
And come to the prayer
Charity brings peace to the giver
Don't be angry
Supplications of the morning
Pause to reflect
The Qur'an: The blessed book
Don't aspire to fame, or else you will be taxed with stress and worries
The good life
Bear trials patiently
Worship Allah by surrendering your will to Him
From being a governor to becoming a carpenter
Mixing with people whose company is Heavy and dull ruins a person's peace
For the calamity-stricken
The positive effects of having true Monotheistic faith in Allah
Take care of your outside as well as of your inside
Seek refuge with Allah
I place my complete trust in Him
They agree on three points
The wrongdoing of the transgressor
Khosrau and the old lady
A handicap in one area can be compensated For by excellence in another
A few words about the foolish
Faith in Allah is the way to salvation
Even the disbelievers are at different levels
An iron will
The inborn disposition upon which we were created
Whatever is written for you Will unerringly come to you
Work hard for the fruitful end
Your life is replete with priceless moments
Pause to reflect
Performing noble deeds is the way to happiness
Beneficial knowledge and fruitless knowledge
Read more, but with understanding And contemplation
Take account of yourself
Three mistakes that are common In our everyday lives
Plan your affairs and take proper precautions
Winning people over
Travel to different lands
Perform the late-night voluntary prayers
Your reward is Paradise
True love
The shari'ah is made easy for you
Tranquility and peace
Beware of ardent love
Some cures for ardent, unbridled love
The rights of brotherhood
Two secrets regarding sinning (Even if you know them, don't sin)
Seek out sustenance but don't be covetous
Pause to reflect
A religion that is full of benefits
Fear not! Surely, you will have the upper hand
Stay away from the following four….
In order to find peace, turn to your Lord
Two great words of solace
Some of the positive effects of experiencing hardship
Knowledge
Happiness is a Divine gift that does not Distinguish between the rich and the poor
Being remembered after death is a second life
Invoke Allah with the following
A Lord Who wrongs not
Write your own history
Listen attentively to the words of Allah
Everyone is searching for happiness, but….
Prepare for bad times by being Thankful when all is well
Bliss versus the Fire
Have we not opened your breast For you [O' Muhammad]?
A good life
What then is happiness?
To Him do the good words ascend
Such is the Seizure of your Lord
The supplication of the wronged
The importance of having a good friend
Fleeting glory
Performing virtuous deeds is the crown On the head of a happy life
Everlastingness and Paradise Are there, and not here!
Enemies of the Divine way
The reality of this life
The key to happiness
Pause to reflect
How they used to live
What the wise say about patience
The importance of a positive attitude
A few words on patience
Pause to reflect
Don’t grieve you are poor, for your true Value is not determined by your bank balance
A word on reading
Don’t be sad, and study Allah’s Signs in the creation
O’ Allah! O’ Allah!
Don’t grieve, for change must take place
Do not give pleasure to your Enemy by displaying grief
Optimism versus skepticism
O’ son of Adam, do not despair
Pause to reflect
Blessings in disguise
The fruits of contentment
Being pleased with Allah
For the malcontented there is wrath
The benefits one reaps by being contented
Do not challenge your Lord
A just decree
Resentment yields no return
Safety is in contentment
Dissatisfaction is the door to doubt
Satisfaction is richness and safety
The fruit of contentment is thankfulness
The fruit of discontentment is disbelief
Dissatisfaction is a trap of the devil
Another word on contentment
Overlooking the faults of one’s brothers
Take advantage of health and free time
Allah protects those who believe
Signposts on the seeker’s highway
Being blessed with honor is also a test
The enduring treasures
Determination can overcome Insurmountable barriers
Reading in order to learn wisdom
And when I am ill, it is He Who cures me
Take your precautions
Verify the facts yourself
Resolve to do something and then do it
The life of this world
Hiding from evil is a temporary solution
Remember that you are dealing With the Most Merciful
Optimism
Life is toil
Pause to reflect
Treading the middle path saves one from destruction
One is judged by one‘s dominant characteristics
One’s inborn character
It is not enough to be merely intelligent: One needs true guidance as well
If one has inner beauty, he will Discern beauty in the universe
Relief after hardship
You are above jealousy
Pause to reflect
Knowledge is the key to serenity and ease
The wrong way to go about things....
The noblest human being
One step at a time
Whether you have a little or a lot, Learn to be thankful
Three plaques
Pause to reflect
Be free from worry and fear
Deeds of charity
Recreation and relaxation
Pause to reflect
Contemplate the universe
Follow a studied plan
Do not be disorderly: in your affairs
Your value is determined by Your faith and character
The bliss of the Companions (May Allah be pleased with them)
Pause to reflect
A smile every morning
An obsession for revenge is poison That flows through a diseased soul
Pause to reflect
Do not melt into someone else’s personality
Waiting for relief from Allah
Pause to reflect
Guidance: A natural consequence of belief
The middle course
Avoiding extremes
Pause to reflect
Who are the righteous ones?
Allah is Most Kind to His slaves
And He will provide him from [sources] He never could imagine
An early: recompense
When you ask, ask Allah
Precious moments
Divine pre-ordainment
Death
Allah Alone is Ail-Powerful
Unexpected relief
Allah allows miracles to occur For His righteous slaves
Allah is All-Sufficient as a Disposer of affairs
Everything in the universe glorifies Allah
Be pleased with Allah
A call from the Nakhlah valley
The First generation of Muslims
Contentment even after being ruined
Be resolute in making a decision
The believer is firm and resolute
The tax on being an eloquent speaker
Perfect comfort and rest are in Paradise
Gentleness helps you achieve your goals
Anxiety does not help
Peace of mind is in having The basic necessities of life
Be prepared for the worst-case scenario
You are doing well you are healthy and have enough food
Don't belittle another person's efforts
Deal with others as you would Have them deal with you
Be fair
Avoid being artificial
If you really cannot do something, leave it
Do not be chaotic in your life
T he Mutual rivalry for piling up Of worldly things diverts you
Conclusion

Islambasics Library: Don't be Sad

Don't belittle another person's efforts

 

Life has taught me to put into practice something that has never failed me: to moderately express my approval of others. This policy always has a positive effect on all sorts of people. Soft and gentle words work wonders on the hearts of people; our religion teaches us to be generous and kind in dealings:

 

(And by the Mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you...)                                                                           (Qur'an 3: 159)

 

The author of the book How to Win Friends states that an important factor in attracting people to you is to praise and compliment them inordinately. I do not agree: moderation and justice are called for:

 

(lndeed Allah has set a measure for all things.)                  (Qur'an 65: 3)

 

Therefore one should neither flatter others artificially nor be dry and distant with them.

 

Sure, we could take the path of looking down upon people with supercilious airs; but as a result, it is we who will lose our friends - and not they who will lose us. lf you are not friendly, people will soon find someone else to make acquaintance with.

 

(And be kind and humble to the believers who follow you.)

(Qur'an 26: 215)

 

Earning the respect of others also contributes to bringing you happiness. Muslims are Allah's witnesses on earth and they pray for each other's forgiveness.

 

 (...and speak good to people...)                                                 (Qur'an 2: 83)

 

In life, I have been especially impressed by those who are charismatic in their dealings — those who seem to attract others magnetically by their good character. They always wear a smile for others, they have honest tongues, and their hearts are free from jealousy and rancor.

 

With the permission of Allah, it is within the reach of every one of us to achieve acceptance among the people of the earth. This acceptance is not bought with treasures or wealth, but it is earned through sincerity towards Allah, truthfulness, the love of Allah and His Messenger (bpuh), a love for spreading good to others, and a lowly opinion of one's own self

 

To achieve these and other good qualities, we must make an honest effort, because they require an upward climb. Evil characteristics are easily achieved for whoever wants them, for they demand only a downward descent.

 

An Arab poet said:

"The evil character soon ceases to feel his wickedness, A bodily injury causes no pain for the dead."

 

The person who is self-absorbed is likely to feel inferior and melancholic on the inside. And there are some people who think more highly of themselves than they should. A few examples of such people come to mind, people who made some efforts to contribute to society, later feeling that their work deserved a lifetime's achievement award.

 

One student I knew wrote a few small booklets that were targeted at young Muslims. I wanted to encourage him, so I complimented him on his efforts. Then, he began to talk endlessly about the booklets, about how widely they were distributed, and about how much acclaim they had received. I was amazed at this person's vision of himself, but I also learned from him how people hate to be overlooked or put down.

 

On another occasion, I heard a taped lecture of a student. I invited him to my home, intending to encourage him to continue his efforts in seeking knowledge of Islam. When I mentioned the tape, he found his opportunity. He began by invoking Allah to benefit the entire Muslim nation through his lecture. He then continued to expound on how he had researched the topic. Before calling him, I had never expected him to be so self-centered. My conversation with him also made me realize that it is in human nature to give more worth to one's own self than it deserves. Therefore be wary of putting somebody down:

 

(Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former; nor let [some] women scoffat other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former….)                         (Qur'an 49: 11)

 

People will love you if you applaud their efforts and give them attention:

 

(And turn not away those who invoke their Lord, morning and afternoon….)                                                                                 (Qur'an 6: 52)

 

(And keep yourself [O' Muhammad] patiently with those who call on their Lord [i.e. your companions who remember their Lord with glorification, praising in prayers, etc., and other righteous deeds, etc.] morning and afternoon...)                                                        (Qur'an 18: 28)

 

([The Prophet] frowned and turned away, because there came to him the blind man [i.e. Albdullah ibn Umm-Maktoom, who came to the Prophet while he was preaching to one or some of the Quraysh chiefs]. But what could tell you that per chance he might become pure [from sins]?)                                                                                        (Qur'an 80: 1-3)

 

During my high school years, I not only studied poetry, but I also composed it. On one occasion, the students of another school visited us. At the welcome party, I was asked to recite some of my poetry, not because of any skill that I could lay claim to, but because I was the only one in our school who had an inclination to verse.

 

I read some of my poetry aloud and the Literature teacher praised both my style and use of words, and I actually believed him. I thought that I had written something of genius and only when I was older and had returned to those lines did I realize how sophomoric my work really was.

 

The only thing we gain by putting others down is an extra enemy. Therefore be just in recognizing the efforts of others, and compliment them for their virtues.

 


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