By: Aaidh ibn Abdullah Al-Qarnee


Inside Cover
About this Book
Publisher’s Note
Translators’ Foreword
Introduction to the First Edition (Of the Arabic Version)
O' Allah!
Contemplate and be thankful
The past is gone forever
Today is all that you have
Leave the future alone until it comes
How to deal with bitter criticism
Do not expect gratitude from anyone
Doing good to others gives comfort to the heart
Repel boredom with work
Do not be a mimicker
Pre-ordainment
Verily, with hardship, there is relief
Convert a lemon into a sweet drink
Is not He [better than your gods] Who responds to the distressed
Enough for you is your home
Your recompense is with Allah
Faith is life itself
Extract the honey but do not break the hive
Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest
Or do they envy men for what Allah Has given them of His Bounty?
Accept life as it is
Find consolation by remembering the afflicted
The prayer…..the prayer
Allah [Alone] is sufficient for us, and He Is the best Disposer of affairs [for us]
Patience is most fitting
Do not carry the weight of The globe on your shoulders
Do not be crushed by what is insignificant
Be content with that which Allah has given You and you will be the richest of people
Thus we have made you a just nation
Take a moment to reflect
Smile
Smile ----- Pause to reflect
The blessing of pain
The blessing of knowledge
The art of happiness
The art of happiness ---- Pause to reflect
Controlling one's emotions
The bliss of the Prophetic Companions
Repel boredom from your life
Cast of anxiety
Cast of anxiety - Pause to reflect
Do not be sad ---- Everything will occur According to pre-ordainment
Do not be sad ------ Wait patiently For a happy outcome
Wait patiently for a happy outcome - Pause to reflect
Do not be sad: Seek forgiveness from Allah Often, for your Lord is Oft-Forgiving
Do not be sad ----- Always remember Allah
Do not be sad ---- Never Lose hope of Allah's mercy
Grieve not over unworthy things
Do not be sad - Repel anxiety
Grieve not over being poor
D0 not feel sad over fears for what may happen
Stop to reflect
Do not be sad: overlook the actions of others.
Do not be sad --- Do good to others
Jealousy is not something new
Stop to reflect
Do not be sad from the want of ample provision
Appreciate that, compared to Others, your trial is light
Do not mimic the personality of others
Isolation and its positive effects
Do not be shaken by hardships
Pause to think about hardships
Do not be sad ---The fundamentals of happiness
Why grieve when you have the six ingredients?
The fundamentals of happiness ---- Verses upon which to reflect
Your best companion is a book
The benefits of reading
Pause to reject
Do not grieve ---- There is another life to come
Do not feel overly stressed When work piles up
Grieve not and ask yourself the following questions
Do not despair when you face a difficult situation
Contemplate these verses
Depression weakens the body and the soul
Depression: A cause of ulcers
Some other effects of depression
What depression and anger do
Bear your hardships with serenity
Hold a good opinion of your Lord
When your thoughts wander
Embrace constructive criticism
Most rumors are baseless
Gentleness averts confrontations
Yesterday will never return
This life does not deserve our grief
Ponder these points
As long as you have faith in Allah, don’t be sad
Do not grieve over trivialities For the entire world is trivial
This is how the world is
Strive to help others
Do not feel deprived as long as you have a loaf of Bread, a glass of water and clothes on your back
Blessings in disguise
You are created unique
Much that in appearance is harmful is in fact a blessing
Faith is the greatest remedy!
Do not lose hope
Don‘t be sad ---- Life is shorter than you think
As long as you have life’s basic Necessities --- Don‘t be sad
Contentment repels sadness
If you lose a limb, you still have others to compensate for it
The days rotate in bringing good and bad
Travel throughout Allah's wide earth
Contemplate these Prophetic sayings
In the last moments of life….
Do not let calamity shake you
Do not grieve ---- This world is not worth your
Don't be sad: Remember that you believe in Allah
Pause to reflect
Despair not --- Handicaps do not prevent success
If you embrace Islam, there is No reason for you to be sad
Things that bring about happiness
The ingredients of happiness
You will not die before your appointed time
""O"" Allah, Who is full of Majesty and Honor….""
Pause to reflect
Steps to take if you are fearful of a jealous person
Good manners
Sleepless nights
The evil consequences of sinning
Strive for your sustenance, but don't be covetous
The secret of guidance
Ten gems for a good and noble life
Don't be sad ---- Learn to deal with your reality
Don't be sad ---- Sooner or later Everything in this world perishes
Depression leads to misery
Depression may lead to suicide
Asking Allah for forgiveness opens locked doors
People should depend on you, and not you on them
Prudence
Do not cling to other than Allah
Doing those things that bring you peace
Preordainment
The sweet taste of freedom
Do not pay attention to the tell-tale
The curses of the foolish are Of no consequence to you
Appreciate the beauty of the universe
Avarice is of no avail
Allah [Alone] is sufficient for us, and He Is the best Disposer of affairs (for us]
The ingredients of happiness
The fatigue and stress that come with an important position
And come to the prayer
Charity brings peace to the giver
Don't be angry
Supplications of the morning
Pause to reflect
The Qur'an: The blessed book
Don't aspire to fame, or else you will be taxed with stress and worries
The good life
Bear trials patiently
Worship Allah by surrendering your will to Him
From being a governor to becoming a carpenter
Mixing with people whose company is Heavy and dull ruins a person's peace
For the calamity-stricken
The positive effects of having true Monotheistic faith in Allah
Take care of your outside as well as of your inside
Seek refuge with Allah
I place my complete trust in Him
They agree on three points
The wrongdoing of the transgressor
Khosrau and the old lady
A handicap in one area can be compensated For by excellence in another
A few words about the foolish
Faith in Allah is the way to salvation
Even the disbelievers are at different levels
An iron will
The inborn disposition upon which we were created
Whatever is written for you Will unerringly come to you
Work hard for the fruitful end
Your life is replete with priceless moments
Pause to reflect
Performing noble deeds is the way to happiness
Beneficial knowledge and fruitless knowledge
Read more, but with understanding And contemplation
Take account of yourself
Three mistakes that are common In our everyday lives
Plan your affairs and take proper precautions
Winning people over
Travel to different lands
Perform the late-night voluntary prayers
Your reward is Paradise
True love
The shari'ah is made easy for you
Tranquility and peace
Beware of ardent love
Some cures for ardent, unbridled love
The rights of brotherhood
Two secrets regarding sinning (Even if you know them, don't sin)
Seek out sustenance but don't be covetous
Pause to reflect
A religion that is full of benefits
Fear not! Surely, you will have the upper hand
Stay away from the following four….
In order to find peace, turn to your Lord
Two great words of solace
Some of the positive effects of experiencing hardship
Knowledge
Happiness is a Divine gift that does not Distinguish between the rich and the poor
Being remembered after death is a second life
Invoke Allah with the following
A Lord Who wrongs not
Write your own history
Listen attentively to the words of Allah
Everyone is searching for happiness, but….
Prepare for bad times by being Thankful when all is well
Bliss versus the Fire
Have we not opened your breast For you [O' Muhammad]?
A good life
What then is happiness?
To Him do the good words ascend
Such is the Seizure of your Lord
The supplication of the wronged
The importance of having a good friend
Fleeting glory
Performing virtuous deeds is the crown On the head of a happy life
Everlastingness and Paradise Are there, and not here!
Enemies of the Divine way
The reality of this life
The key to happiness
Pause to reflect
How they used to live
What the wise say about patience
The importance of a positive attitude
A few words on patience
Pause to reflect
Don’t grieve you are poor, for your true Value is not determined by your bank balance
A word on reading
Don’t be sad, and study Allah’s Signs in the creation
O’ Allah! O’ Allah!
Don’t grieve, for change must take place
Do not give pleasure to your Enemy by displaying grief
Optimism versus skepticism
O’ son of Adam, do not despair
Pause to reflect
Blessings in disguise
The fruits of contentment
Being pleased with Allah
For the malcontented there is wrath
The benefits one reaps by being contented
Do not challenge your Lord
A just decree
Resentment yields no return
Safety is in contentment
Dissatisfaction is the door to doubt
Satisfaction is richness and safety
The fruit of contentment is thankfulness
The fruit of discontentment is disbelief
Dissatisfaction is a trap of the devil
Another word on contentment
Overlooking the faults of one’s brothers
Take advantage of health and free time
Allah protects those who believe
Signposts on the seeker’s highway
Being blessed with honor is also a test
The enduring treasures
Determination can overcome Insurmountable barriers
Reading in order to learn wisdom
And when I am ill, it is He Who cures me
Take your precautions
Verify the facts yourself
Resolve to do something and then do it
The life of this world
Hiding from evil is a temporary solution
Remember that you are dealing With the Most Merciful
Optimism
Life is toil
Pause to reflect
Treading the middle path saves one from destruction
One is judged by one‘s dominant characteristics
One’s inborn character
It is not enough to be merely intelligent: One needs true guidance as well
If one has inner beauty, he will Discern beauty in the universe
Relief after hardship
You are above jealousy
Pause to reflect
Knowledge is the key to serenity and ease
The wrong way to go about things....
The noblest human being
One step at a time
Whether you have a little or a lot, Learn to be thankful
Three plaques
Pause to reflect
Be free from worry and fear
Deeds of charity
Recreation and relaxation
Pause to reflect
Contemplate the universe
Follow a studied plan
Do not be disorderly: in your affairs
Your value is determined by Your faith and character
The bliss of the Companions (May Allah be pleased with them)
Pause to reflect
A smile every morning
An obsession for revenge is poison That flows through a diseased soul
Pause to reflect
Do not melt into someone else’s personality
Waiting for relief from Allah
Pause to reflect
Guidance: A natural consequence of belief
The middle course
Avoiding extremes
Pause to reflect
Who are the righteous ones?
Allah is Most Kind to His slaves
And He will provide him from [sources] He never could imagine
An early: recompense
When you ask, ask Allah
Precious moments
Divine pre-ordainment
Death
Allah Alone is Ail-Powerful
Unexpected relief
Allah allows miracles to occur For His righteous slaves
Allah is All-Sufficient as a Disposer of affairs
Everything in the universe glorifies Allah
Be pleased with Allah
A call from the Nakhlah valley
The First generation of Muslims
Contentment even after being ruined
Be resolute in making a decision
The believer is firm and resolute
The tax on being an eloquent speaker
Perfect comfort and rest are in Paradise
Gentleness helps you achieve your goals
Anxiety does not help
Peace of mind is in having The basic necessities of life
Be prepared for the worst-case scenario
You are doing well you are healthy and have enough food
Don't belittle another person's efforts
Deal with others as you would Have them deal with you
Be fair
Avoid being artificial
If you really cannot do something, leave it
Do not be chaotic in your life
T he Mutual rivalry for piling up Of worldly things diverts you
Conclusion

Islambasics Library: Don't be Sad

Thus we have made you a just nation

 

(Thus we have made you a just nation)   (Qur'an 2: 143)

 

Both your conscience and your Religion demand that you be just, which means that you should neither exaggerate nor understate, neither go into excess nor do too little. Whoever seeks happiness should be just, regardless of whether he is in an angry, a sad, or a joyful mood. Exaggeration in our dealings with others is unacceptable. The best course is the middle course. Whoever follows his desires will likely magnify the importance of any given situation, always making a big deal out of nothing. He will feel jealousy and malice toward others. Since he lives in a world of exaggeration and imagination, he will envisage everyone else to be against him, even to the extent that he feels others to be always conspiring to destroy him. Because of this, he lives under a dark cloud, constantly overcome by fear and apprehension.

 

Living according to hearsay and superstition is prohibited in our Religion.

 

(They think that every cry is against them.) (Qur'an 63; 4)

 

More often than not, what you fear will happen in the future does not end up taking place. Here is something you should try: when you fear something, imagine that the worst possible outcome takes place, and then train yourself to feel prepared and contented with that outcome. If you do this, you will find that you have saved yourself from apprehensions and superstitions that would otherwise have caused you much grief

 

Lend your attention to each matter in proportion to its importance. In any given situation do not exaggerate mountains from molehills; rather, keep in mind your objectivity and fairness. Do not follow false suspicion or the deceitful illusion of the mirage, but be balanced. Listen to the balance of love and hate as explained by the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him);

 

"Love the one who is beloved to you in due moderation, for perhaps the day will come when you will abhor him. And hate the one whom you detest in due moderation, for perhaps the day will arrive when you will come to love him."

 

(Perhaps Allah will Make Friendship between You and those whom you hold as enemies. And Allah has power [over all things], and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.) (Qur'an 60: 7)

 

Being sad is not encouraged in our religion

 

(So do not become weak (against your enemy), nor be sad…)

(Qur'an 3: 139)

 

(And grieve not over them, and be not distressed because of what they plot)                                         (Qur'an I6: 127)

 

(Be not sad, surely Allah is with us) (Qur'an 9: 40)

 

Referring to true believers, Allah informs us that:

 

(…upon such shall come no fear; nor shall they grieve.) (Quran 2: 38)

 

Sadness enervates the soul's will to act and paralyzes the body into inactivity. Sadness prevents one from action instead of compelling one towards it. The heart benefits nothing through grief the most beloved thing to the Devil is to make the worshipper sad in order to prevent him from continuing on his path. Allah, the Exalted, says:

 

(Secret counsels [conspiracies] are only from Shaytan [Satan], in order that he may cause grief to the believers.)                   (Qur'an 58: 10)

 

In the following hadith, the Prophet (bpuh) said:

"ln a company of three, it is forbidden for two to hold secret counsel to the exclusion of the third, since doing so will be a cause of sadness for him."

 

Contrary to what some believe (those who have an extreme ascetic bent), the believer should not seek out sadness, because sadness is a harmful condition that afflicts the soul. The Muslim must repel sadness and fight it in any way that is permissible in our Religion.

 

There is no real benefit to sadness; the Prophet (bpuh) sought refuge from it in the following supplication:

 

"O' Allah, I seek refuge in you from anxiety and grief."

 

Grief is coupled with anxiety in this hadith. The difference between the two is that if a bad feeling is related to what is going to happen in the future. then one is feeling anxiety. And if the cause of this feeling concerns the past, then one is feeling grief. Both of them weaken the heart, causing inactivity and a decrease in will power.

 

Despite what has been mentioned above, grief may sometimes be both inevitable and necessary. When they enter Paradise, its dwellers will say:

 

(All the praises and thanks be to Allah, Who has removed from us [all] grief) (Qur'an 35: 34)

 

This verse implies that they were afflicted with grief in this life, just as they were afflicted with other forms of hardship, both of which were out of their control. So whenever one is overcome by grief and there is no way to avoid it, one is rewarded, because grief is a form of hardship, and the believer is rewarded for going through hardship. Nonetheless, the believer must ward off grief with supplication and other practical means.

 

As for the saying of Allah, the Almighty;

(Nor [is there blame] on those who came to you to he provided with mounts, and when you said: 'I can find no mounts for you, ' they turned back, while their eyes overflowing with tears of grief that they could not find anything to spend.)   (Qur'an 9: 92)

 

They were not praised for their grief in itself, but for what that grief indicated and pointed to M namely, strong faith. This occurred when they remained behind during one of the Prophet's expeditions, due to their inability to find the necessary resources needed to make the trip. The verse also exposed the hypocrites, because they did not feel grief when they remained behind.

 

Therefore the good kind of grief is that which stems from missing out an opportunity to do a good deed or from performing a sin. When one feels sad because he was negligent in fulfilling the rights of Allah, he shows a characteristic of a person who is on the right path. As for the hadith,

 

"Whatever befalls the believer in terms of anxiety, hardship or grief, Allah will make it an atonement for (some of) his sins,"

 

- it indicates that grief is a trial with which the believer is afflicted, and through which some of his sins are atoned for. However, it does not indicate that grief is something to be sought after; the believer should not seek out means of finding grief, thinking that he is performing an act of worship. lf this were the case, then the Prophet (bpuh) would have been the first to apply this principle. But he didn't search out for misery; rather, his face was always smiling, his heart was content, and he was continually joyful.

 

As for the hadith of Hind, "He was continually sorrowful," it is considered to be unsubstantiated by scholars of hadith, because among its narrators is someone who is unknown. Not only is the hadith weak because of its chain of narrators; it is also weak because it is contrary to how the Prophet (bpuh) really was.

 

How could he have been continually in grief when Allah had informed him that he was forgiven for everything (guaranteeing his entry into Paradise) and had protected him from feeling grief over matters pertaining to this life: for example, Allah forbade him from feeling grief over the actions of the disbelievers'? How could he have felt grief when all the time his heart was filled with the remembrance of Allah, and when he was at peace with Allah's promise? In fact, he was always pleasant and his teeth were always visible due to his constant smiles. Whoever delves deeply into his life will know that he came to remove falsehood and to eradicate anxiety, confusion, and grief. He came to free our souls from the tyranny of doubt, disbelief confusion, and disorder. He came to save our souls from destruction. So many indeed are the favors that were bestowed upon mankind through him (Blessings and Peace be upon him).

 

And as for the alleged hadith, "Verily, Allah loves all sad hearts," the chain of its narrators is unknown, so it is not an authentic hadith, especially in view of the fact that the basic principles of our religion are contrary to its import. Even if we were to suppose the hadith to be authentic. Then its meaning would be that sadness is one of the hardships of life imposed upon the worshipper as a form of trial. And if the worshipper is tested by this trial, and if he perseveres through patience, then Allah loves him. As for those who have praised melancholy and have lauded its many virtues (while claiming that our religion encourages it) then they are very mistaken. In fact, every text from revelation that touches upon sadness forbids it and orders its opposite: namely, that we should be content with the mercy and blessings of Allah, and happy with that which has been sent with the Messenger of Allah (Blessings and Peace be upon him). Those who incline towards extremes in asceticism also relate the following narration:

 

"If Allah loves one of his slaves, He makes that slave's heart that of a weeper. And if he hates one of his slaves, then he places a flute in his heart (thus making him constantly light and happy)."

 

First, we must note that this is an Israelite tradition, which is claimed to be found in the Torah. Nevertheless, it does have a correct meaning since, truly, the believer feels grief due to his sins and the evildoer is ever playful and frivolous, light and joyful. So if the hearts of the faithful grieve, then it is only due to opportunities lost in terms of righteous deeds or because of sins committed. This is contrary to the sadness of the evildoers, whose grief is caused by losing out on physical pleasure or worldly benefit. Their yearnings, anxieties, and sadness are always for these ends and for nothing else.

 

In this verse, Allah says of his Prophet Israa'eel (Israel):

(And he lost his sight because of the sorrow that he was suppressing.)

(Qur'an 12: 84)

 

Here we are informed of his grief over losing his beloved son. Simply informing about something does not in itself signify either approval or disapproval of that thing. The fact is that we have been ordered to seek refuge from sadness, as it is a heavy cloud that hangs above its victim, and is a barrier that prevents one from advancing to higher aims.

 

There is no doubt that sadness is a trial and a hardship, and is in some ways similar to sickness. However, it is not a stage, level, or condition that the pious should actively seek out.

 

You are required to seek the means of happiness and peace, to ask Allah to grant you a good life, one that gives you a clear conscience and a mind at peace. The achievement of this is an early reward, a point that is underscored by the saying of some, "ln this world is a paradise, and whoever does not enter it shall not enter the Paradise of the Hereafter."

 

And we ask Allah to open our hearts to the light of faith, to guide our hearts to His straight path, and to save us from a miserable and wretched life.

 


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