Emotions flare up for two reasons: either for joy or
for inner pain. In a hadith, the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him)
"Verily, I have been prohibited from emitting two
foolish and wicked sounds, one that is emitted when something favorable happens,
and the other that is expressed when calamity strikes."
(ln order that you may not be sad aver matters that
you fail to get, nor rejoice because of that which has been given to you.) (Qur'an
For this reason, the Prophet (bpuh) said:
"Verily, true patience is that which is displayed
during the initial shock."
Therefore, when one contains his emotions upon both
the joyful and the calamitous occasion, he is likely to achieve peace and tranquility,
happiness and comfort, and the taste of triumph over his own self Allah
described man as being exultant and boastful, irritable, discontented when evil
touches him, and niggardly when good touches him. The exceptions, Allah
informed us, are those who remain constant in prayer. For they are on a middle
path in times of both joy and sorrow. They are thankful during times of ease
and are patient during times of hardship.
Unbridled emotions can greatly wear a person out,
causing pain and loss of sleep. When such a person becomes angry, he flares up,
threatens others, loses all self-control, and surpasses the boundaries of
justice and balance. Meanwhile, if he becomes happy, he is in a state of
rapture and wildness. ln his intoxication of joy, he forgets himself and
surpasses the bounds of modesty. When he renounces and relinquishes the company
of others, he disparages them, forgetting their virtues while stamping out
their good qualities. On the other hand, if he loves others, then he spares no
pains in according them all forms of veneration and honor, portraying them as being
the pinnacles of perfection.
The Prophet (bpuh) said:
"Love the one who is beloved to you in due
moderation, for perhaps the day will come when you will abhor him. And hate the
one whom you detest in due moderation, for perhaps the day will arrive when you
will come to love him."
And in another hadith, the Prophet (bpuh) said:
"And I ask you (O' Allah) to make me just, both
while being in a state of anger and while being in a state of joy."
So when a person curbs his emotions, when he controls
his mind, and when to each matter he gives according to the weight of its importance,
he will have taken a step towards wisdom and true understanding.
Indeed we have sent Our Messengers with clear proofs,
and revealed with them the Scripture and the Balance [justice] that mankind may
keep up justice.) (Qur'an 57: 25)
Indeed, Islam came as much with balance in morals,
manners, and dealings as it did with its straightforward, holy, and truthful
way of life.
(Thus we have made you a just (and the best) nation. It
(Qur'an 2: I43)
Being just is an end that is called for in both our
manners and in matters of jurisprudence. In fact, Islam is founded on truth and
justice - truthfulness in all that we learn from revealed texts, and justice in
rulings, sayings, actions, and manners.
(And the Word of your Lord has been fulfilled in truth
and in justice.) (Qur'an 6: 115)