The Bride's Boon
Marriage Is Enjoyment and Responsibility
The Marital Life Is Not Just for Pleasure
Qur’anic verses:
{O consorts of the Prophet: Ye are not like any of the (other) women: If ye do fear (Allah), be not too complaisant of speech, lest one in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire: but speak ye a speech (that is) just. And stay quietly in your houses, and make not a dazzling display, like that of the former times of Ignorance; and establish regular prayer, and give zakat and obey Allah and His Messenger. And Allah only wishes to remove all abomination from you, ye Members of the Family, and to make you pure and spotless.}
[Al-Ahzab: 32- 33]
Prophetic Hadiths:
Allah has mercy on a man who gets up in the night and performs prayers. Then he awakes his wife (to pray) and sprinkles water on her face if she refuses. Allah has mercy on a woman who gets up in the night and performs prayers. Then she awakes her husband (to pray) and sprinkles water on his face if he refuses.
[Reported by Al-Nasa’i]
If a man awakes his wife at night and they perform two rak’ats together, they will be counted among men and women who engage much in Allah’s remembrance.
[Reported by Abu Dawud and Al-Nasa’i]
From the Arms of His Bride to the Battlefield
Prophetic Hadiths:
"When Hanzhala ibn 'Amir had been killed the Prophet (pbuh) said (to his companions", (Angels are washing your friend now.[1] When they asked his wife, she said, No sooner did he hear the call of Jihad, he left without having the bath after sex.
[Reported by Tirmidhi]
How Islam Brings up the Woman
Prophetic Hadiths:
Ibn Hisham in his seerah (The Biography of the Prophet), reported Umm Sa'd ibn al-Rabei' to have said, "Once, Umm `Imara visited me. I asked her to tell me her story in the battle of Uhud. She said,
"I arrived at the battlefield in the beginning of the day. I was supposed to provide the soldiers with water. The Prophet (pbuh) and his companions were victorious at the beginning of the war. Then when Muslims were about to be defeated, I stood by the Prophet (pbuh) and began to defend him by sword and arrows until I was injured. Umm Sa'd said, Then I noticed a deep wound in her shoulder. I asked her, Who injured you that wound? She answered, Ibn Qumu ah; may Allah ruin him. When the people started to fleeing and leave the Prophet (pbuh) alone, he attacked us saying, Where is Muhammad? I will never be sate it' he is still alive. I blocked his way with Mus'ab ibn 'Umair and some Muslims who kept defending the Prophet (pbuh). That wretched man hit me with his sword. I also hit him but he had two shields.
Ibn Hisham also reported, Safiyyah bint 'Abdel Muttalib was in a fort guarded by Hassan ibn Thabit (who was sick by then). She said, A Jewish man attempted to attack the women camp. Watching the Jewish man walking around the fort, Safiyya at once went to Hassan and said, I doubt that man, since he might lead the enemy to us; you have to kill him. Hassan replied, May Allah forgive you, I could not do that.
Accordingly, she decided to get rid of that Jewish man alone. She veiled herself, picked up a huge cudgel and went down the fort. All of sudden, she hit the Jewish man on the back of his head several times until he died.
Women and Knowledge
Prophetic Hadiths:
The best of women are the Ansari ones. They do not feel shy to ask and learn the religious matters.
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
The Leisure Time
Qur’anic verses:
{Therefore when thou art free (from this thine immediate task), still labour hard, and to thy Lord turn (all) thy attention.}
[Al-Sharh: 8]
{If they pass by futility, they pass by it with honorable (avoidance);}
[Al-Furqan: 72]
Prophetic Hadiths:
O the people of Arfada, let the Jews know that we have amusement in our religion.
[Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
A believer has only tour kinds of lawful amusement: caressing his wife, taming his horse, shooting arrows and learning how to swim.
[Reported by Al-Nasa’i]
On the Day of Judgement a man will be asked about four things: his life and how he led it, his body and how he exhausted it, his know ledge and how he made use of it, and his property and how he gained and spent it.
Characteristics of the Leaders Wives
Qur’anic verses:
{O Prophet! Say to thy consorts: if it be that ye desire the life of this world, and its glitter then come! I will provide for your enjoyment and set you free in a handsome maru1er. But if ye seek Allah and His Messenger, and the Home of the Hereafter, verily Allah has prepared for the well doers amongst you a great reward.}
{O consorts of the Prophet: Ye are not like any of the (other) women: If ye do tear (Allah), be not too complaisant of speech, lest one in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire: but speak ye a speech (that is) just. And stay quietly in your houses, and make not a dazzling display, like that of the former times of Ignorance; and establish regular prayer, and give zakat and obey Allah and His Messenger. And Allah only wishes to remove all abomination from you, ye Members of the Family, and to make you pure and spotless.}
[Al-Ahzab: 28-33]
{Allah sets forth, for an example to the unbelievers, the wife of Noah and the wife of Lut: They were (respectively) under two of our righteous servants but thy betrayed their (husbands), and they profited nothing before Allah on their account, but were told: Enter ye the Fire along with (others) that enter! And Allah sets forth, as an example to those who believe the wife of Pharaoh: Behold she said: O my Lord! Build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings, and save me from those that do wrong.}
[Al- Tahrim: 10-11]
Prophetic Hadiths:
"When Jibreel (peace be upon him) came with Allah’s revelation to the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) in Hira' Cave, the Prophet (pbuh) went home scared, pale and trembling. He said to Khadija, "cover me, cover me." After she knew what had happened, he said to her, "I am scared, Khadija". Khadija encourage him saying, By Allah, Allah will never make you lose. You keep good terms with your relatives, are truthful, help the weak, are a good host to your guests and help the afflicted."
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
In Hudaibiya (a place near Makka), all Muslims became disappointed because of the treaty the Prophet (pbuh) concluded with the unbelievers of Quraish. Having signed the treaty, the Prophet (pbuh) commanded the Muslims to slaughter their sacrificial animals and have their hair cut to finalize their `Umrah and go back to Madina. But nobody did what the Prophet (pbuh) said. Afterwards, the Prophet (pbuh) entered upon Umm Salama and told her what had happened. Umm Salama said, You would better go out and do not speak to anybody until you slaughter your sacrificial animal and have your hair cut. No sooner did Muslim see the Prophet (pbuh) doing that, than they started to slaughter their animals and have their hair cut.
[Al-Bukhari]
In the battle of al-Qadisiyya, Al-Khansa accompanied the army with her four children. Before rushing into war she commended them saying, O sons, you optionally entered Islam so did you migrate. You are all my sons. I never betrayed your father nor did I stain your lineage or forged your ancestry. You know what Allah prepared for Muslims of great reward when fighting against atheists. You have to know that the immortal life is better than the perishable. Allah the Almighty said.
"O ye who believe! Persevere in patience and constancy; vie in such perseverance; strengthen each other; and fear God; that ye may prosper".
[Al- Imran: 200]
In the morning, they waded into war and kept fighting until they all died. Having known about the death of her four sons, she said, “Praise be to Allah Who gave me the honour of their martyrdom. I invoke Allah to let me meet them in Paradise".
The Prophet As A Serious Husband
Qur’anic verses:
{O Prophet! Say to thy consorts: if it be that ye desire the life of this world, and its glitter then come! I will provide for your enjoyment and set you free in a handsome manner. But if ye seek Allah and His Messenger, and the Home of the Hereafter, verily Allah has prepared for the well-doers amongst you a great reward.}[2]
The Ascetic Life of the Prophet
Prophetic Hadiths:
"Ibn Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased upon him) said,
"Once I entered upon the Prophet (pbuh) while he was sleeping on a mat of palm-leaves which left traces on his side. I said to him, Would you not have bedding beneath you to protect your side. He said, I have nothing to do with this world? This world and I are like a traveler who resorted to the shade of a tree and then left.
[Reported by Tirmidhi]
'Umar made a mention of what had fallen to the lot of people out of the material world and he said: I saw Allah's Messenger (pbuh) spend the whole day being upset because of hunger and he could not get even an inferior quality of dates with which he could fill his belly.
[Reported by Muslim]
‘Urwaa ibn AI-Zubair related, "Aisha said to me, "O my nephew! We used to see the crescent, and then the crescent and then the crescent in this way we saw three crescents in two months and no fire (for cooking) used to be made in the houses of Allah's Apostle. I said, "O my aunt! Then what use to sustain you?" 'Aisha said, "The two black things: dates and water, our neighbors from Ansar had some Manarh and they used to present Allah's Apostle some of their milk and he used to make us drink."
The Superiority of the Perseverance of One’s Wife
Prophetic Hadiths:
`Aisha (may Allah be pleased upon her) related that she said to 'Urwa, O nephew! We would see the new moon followed by another new moon: two months without having fire in the Prophet’s houses (i.e., cooking). He said, O aunt! What did you teed on? She said, Just dates and water.
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
'Aisha (may Allah be pleased upon her) also related,
"The Prophet (pbuh) has never eaten bread of barely two successive days and become satiated until he died".
Once Fatima carne to the Prophet (pbuh) complaining from the toil she faced when grinding. She knew that the Prophet (pbuh) had got a new slave. The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Would you like something better than you wanted?” When going to bed glorify Allah (i.e., to say Subhana Allah) thirty three times at the end of every prayer, to praise Allah (i.e. Alhamdu lillah) thirty three times and magnify Allah (i.e. Allahu Akbar) thirty three times.
Asma related,
"When Az-Zubair married me, he had not real property or anything else except a camel, which drew water from the well, and his horse. I used to feed his horse with fodder and drew water and sew the bucket for drawing it, and prepare the dough, but I did not know how to bake bread. So our Ansari neighbors used to bake bread for me, and they were honorable ladies. I used to carry the date stones on my head from Zubair’s land to him by Allah’s Messenger and this land was two third Farsakh (about two miles) from my house. One day, while I was corning with the date stones on my head, I met Allah’s Messenger along with some Ansari people. He called me and then, (directing his camel to kneel down) said, Ikh! Ikh! So as to make me ride behind him (on his camel). I felt shy to travel with the men and remembered Az-Zubair and his sense of Ghira, for he had the greatest sense of Ghira of all the people. Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) noticed that I felt shy, so he proceeded. I came to Az-Zubair and said, I met Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) while I was carrying a load of date stones on my, and he had some companions with him. He made his camel kneel down so that I might ride, but I felt shy in his presence and remembered your sense of Ghira on that Az-Zubair said, By Allah, your carrying the date-stones (and you being seen by the Prophet (pbuh) in such a state) is more shameful to me than your riding with him. (I continued serving in this way) until Abu Bakr sent me a servant to look after the horse, whereupon I felt as if he had set me free.
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
Maintaining One’s Wife
Prophetic Hadiths:
Allah's Messenger (pbuh) said: Of the dinar you spend as a contribution in Allah’s path, or to set free a slave, or as a Sadaqah (charity) given to a needy, or to support your family, the one yielding the greatest reward is that which you spent on your family.
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
What you spend seeking Allah’s Face will be a reward for you, even when you feed your wife.
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
When you feed yourself, your children, or your wife, you will have a reward for each.
[Reported by Ahmad]
The Reward of Maintaining one’s Children
Ka'b ibn ‘Ajura said, Once a man passed by the Prophet (pbuh). When the companions of the Prophet (pbuh) noticed how patient and active he was said, they said, If done in the cause of Allah! The Prophet (pbuh) said, If he (the man) works for maintaining his young children, it is in the cause of Allah. If he works for maintaining his old parents, it is in the cause of Allah. But if he works for ostentation and conceit, it is in the cause of Satan.
[Reported by Tabarani]
Divine Provender comes from Allah according to ones responsibility. The more ordeals one faces the more patient he will be.
[Reported by Al-Bazzar]
A Miser Husband
Prophetic Hadiths:
"Hind, Abu Sufyan’s wife said, "O Messenger of Allah! Abu Sufyan is a stingy man. He does not. Give me what suffices me and my children except what I take without permission. The Prophet (pbuh) said, Take what suffices you and your children in a kind manner.[3]
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
Having Many Children
Qur’anic verses:
{And that which they leave behind, and of all things have We taken account in a clear Book (of evidence).}
[Yasin: 12]
Prophetic Hadiths:
“Marry a woman who is affectionate and fertile, for I will boast over all nations concerning your number.”
[Narrated by Abu Dawud]
"Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) said:
When a man dies, his acts come to an end, but three, recurring charity, or knowledge (by which people) benefit, or a pious son, who prays for him (for the deceased).
[Reported by Muslim]
Giving the Call to Prayer in the Ears of the Newborn Baby
Prophetic Hadiths:
"Abu Rafi' related, I saw the Prophet (pbuh) calling to prayer in the ear of Al-Hassan ibn Ali when Fatima (may Allah be pleased with her) gave birth to him"'.
[Reported by Abu Dawud]
Rubbing the Baby’s Mouth with a Date
Prophetic Hadiths:
"Abu Musa related' ,When I bore a boy, I brought him before the Prophet (pbuh) who named him Ibrahim, rubbed his mouth with a date, supplicated Allah for him and then gave me him back".
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
Sacrifice for A Newborn and Circumcision[4]
Prophetic Hadiths:
An animal should be sacrificed when a baby is born and the baby should be circumcised.
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
The Prophet (pbuh) slaughtered an animal as sacrifice when Al-Hassan and Al-Hussain were born and he circumcised them in the seventh day of their birth.
[Reported by Al-Baihaqi]
Name-Giving
Prophetic Hadiths:
The best names in the sight of Allah are Abdullah and Abdur Rahman
[Reported by Muslim]
The Prophet (pbuh) said: If anyone is called by my name, he must not be given my kunyah (surname), and if anyone uses my kunyah (surname), he must not be called by my name.
The Prophet As A Kind Father[5]
Prophetic Hadiths:
The Prophet (pbuh) used to protrude his tongue to Al-Hasan, who in turn would notice the redness of his tongue and hurry towards him.
[Reported by Ibn Habban]
'Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said,
"Once, a nomad came to the Prophet (pbuh) and said, "You kiss your children but we do not. The Prophet (pbuh) said, "What should I do with you if Allah stripped mercy from your heart?
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) also related,
"Once the Prophet (pbuh) kissed al-Hassan Ibn Ali before al-Aqra Ibn Habis at-Tamimi. Al-Aqra' wondered, "I have ten children but I have never kissed anyone of them. Then the Prophet (pbuh) looked at him and said, "Whoever does not have mercy on people, Allah does not have mercy on him."
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
Changing Silly Names
Prophetic Hadiths:
The Prophet (pbuh) used to change silly names.
[Reported by Tirmidhi]
Ibn `Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) related that he had a daughter called `Asiyah (sinner), then the Prophet (pbuh) renamed her as Jamilah (beautiful) .
[Reported by Tirmidhi]
Zaynab hint Abu Salamah was (previously) called Burrah (a seed of wheat) and the Prophet (pbuh) called her Zaynab.
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
The Tribulation of Children[6]
Qur’anic verses:
{And know ye that your possessions and your progeny are but a trial: and that it is Allah with whom lies your highest reward.}
[Al-Anfal: 28]
{O ye who believe! Truly, among your wives and your children are (some that are) enemies to yourselves: so beware of them!}
[Al- Taghabun: 14]
{Say: If it be that your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your mates, or your kindred: the wealth that ye have gained; the commerce in which ye tear a decline: or the dwellings in which ye delight-- are dearer to you than Allah or His Messenger, or the striving in His cause; then wait until Allah brings about His decision: and Allah guides not the rebellious.}
[Al- Tawbah: 24]
Islam and Girls[7]
Qur’anic verses:
{When news is brought to one of them, of (the birth of a female (child), his face darkens, and he is filled with inward grief! With shame does he hide himself from his people, because of the bad news he has had! Shall he retain it on (sufferance and) contempt, or bury it in the dust. Ah! What an evil (choice) they decide on?}
[Al-Nahl: 58-59]
{When the female (infant), buried alive, is questioned for what crime she was killed}
[Al- Takwir: 8]
{Lost are those who slay their children, from folly, without knowledge, and forbid food which Allah has provided for them, forging (lies) against Allah, they have indeed gone astray and heeded no guidance.}
[Al-An' am: 140]
The Reward of Taking Care of Girls
Prophetic Hadiths:
Whoever affords two girls until they reach puberty, will be resurrected beside me like that (and he joined his two fingers) on the Day of Judgement.
[Reported by Muslim]
Whoever affords two girls until they reach puberty, I and He will enter Paradise like that (and he raised his two fingers: the index and the finger next to it.
[Reported by Ibn Habban and Tirmidhi]
Whoever affords two girls or three, or two daughters or three until he grows old or dies, I and He will be in Paradise like that (and he raised his two fingers: the index and the finger next to it).
Women and Teaching
Qur’anic verses:
{Are those equal, those who know and those who do not know? It is those who are endured with understanding that receive admonition.}
[Al-Zumar: 9]
{Proclaim! (or read) in the name of thy Lord and Cherisher, Who created man, out of a leech-like clot: Proclaim! And thy Lord is Most Bountiful, He Who taught (the use of) the pen, taught man that which he knew not.}
[Al-'Alaq: 3]
Prophetic Hadiths:
Women are men’s partners.[8]
[Reported by Ahmad and Abu Dawud]
Ash-Shifa said, once the Prophet (pbuh) entered his home while I was there with Hafsa. He said,
"May you teach that (Hafsa) the protective words concerning an-Namlah (a kind of sores affect one’s forehead) as you taught her how to write.
[Reported by Abu Dawud]
Maintaining the Woman’s Health
Qur’anic verse:
{For those who can do it (with hardship), is a ransom, the feeding of one that is indigent.}
[Al-Baqarah: 184]
Prophetic Hadiths:
Allah has exempted the traveler from fasting and a half of prayer. The pregnant and that who suckles her baby are not required to fast too.
[Reported by Abu Dawud]
If the pregnant and that who suckles her baby break her fast, they should give a ransom. They are not required to make up what they missed.
[Reported by Ibn Umar]
Educational Principles
Bringing up one’s Children
Qur'anic verses:
{And that which they leave behind, and of all things have We taken account in a clear Book (of evidence}
[Yasin: 12]
{O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern and sever, who flinch not (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do (precisely) what they are commanded.}
[Al-Tahrim: 6]
{And those who pray, "Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.}
[Al-Furqan: 74]
Prophetic Hadiths:
Allah's Messenger (pbuh) said:
“When a man dies, his acts come to an end, but three, recurring charity, or knowledge (by which people) benefit, or a pious son, who prays for him (for the deceased)."
[Reported by Muslim]
"All of you are guardians and responsible for your wards and the things under your care. The Imam (i.e. ruler) is the guardian of his subjects and is responsible for them and a man is the guardian of his family and is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband's house and is responsible for it. A servant is the guardian of his master's belongings and is responsible for them.’ I thought that he also said, 'A man is the guardian of his father's property and is responsible for it. All of you are guardians and responsible for your wards and the things under your care."
[Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
When Should a Child Be Ordered to Perform the Prayer
Prophetic Hadiths:
"When a boy reaches the age of seven years, teach him the prayers (salat), and punish him, when he commits a fault (in his prayer)"
[Reported by Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud]
“When your children attain the age of seven years, ask them to perform the prayer and chastise them in respect of any fault in this behalf, when they are ten years old, let them sleep in separate beds"
[Reported by Abu Dawud]
Lying to One's Children
Prophetic Hadiths:
Abdullah ibn `Amir (may Allah be pleased with him) said,
"One day my mother called upon me while the Prophet (pbuh) sitting in our home. She said to me, "Come and I will give you." The Prophet (pbuh) said, "What are you going to give him?" She said, " A date. " The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Would not you give him, a lie will be recorded against you."
[Reported by Abu Dawud]
Equality Among Children
Qur'anic verses:
{Verily in Joseph and his brethren are signs for seekers (after Truth). They said: "Truly Joseph and his brother are loved more by our father than we: But we are goodly body! Really our father is obviously in error! "Slay ye Joseph or cast him out to some (w1known) land, that so the favour of your father may be given to you alone: (there will be time enough) for you to be righteous after that!}
[Yusuf: 8-9]
Prophetic Hadiths:
`Amir related,
"I heard An-Nu'man bin Bashir on the pulpit saying, "My father gave me a gift but `Amra bint Rawaha (my mother) said that she would not agree to it unless he made Allah's Apostle as a witness to it. So, my father went to Allah's Apostle and said, 'I have given a gift to my son from `Anna bint Rawaha, but she ordered me to make you as a witness to it, O Allah's Apostle!' Allah's Apostle asked, 'Have you given (the like of it) to everyone of your sons?' He replied in the negative. Allah's Apostle said, 'Be afraid of Allah, and be just to your children.’ My father then returned and took back his gift.”
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
Kind Treatment to One's Children
Prophetic Hadiths:
"The Compassionate One has mercy on those who are merciful. If you show mercy to those who are on the earth, He Who is in the heaven will show mercy to you."
[Reported by Abu Dawud]
`Anas (may Allah have mercy on him) related, "I have never seen anyone surpassing the Prophet (pbuh) in treating children kindly."
[Reported by Muslim]
"Of the commandments he (pbuh) used to give to the military leaders: "Conquer in the name of Allah. Do not kill an infant"
[Reported by Muslim]
`Usama Ibn Zayd Ibn Haritha (may Allah be pleased with him) related that the Prophet (pbuh) would hold me and let me sit on one of his knees and al-Hassan on the other. Then he hugged us and said,
"O Allah may You have mercy on them both because I have mercy on them".
[Reported by AI-Bukhari]
Ibn Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him) related,
"Once I flogged a boy. Thereupon, I heard a voice from my back. When I turned back I heard the Prophet (pbuh) saying, "O Abu Mas'ud! Know that Allah is more able to punish you than are you with this boy".
[Reported by Muslim]
"Once the Prophet (pbuh) kissed al-Hassan Ibn Ali before al-Aqra Ibn Habis at-Tamimi. Al-Aqra' wondered, "I have ten children but I have never kissed anyone of them". Then the Prophet (pbuh) looked at him and said, "Whoever does not have mercy on people, Allah does not have mercy on him".
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
The Reward Granted to the Parents Who Have a Dead Child
Prophetic Hadiths:
Abu Sa' id al-Khudri related,
“The women asked the Prophet, "Please fix a day for us." So the Prophet preached to them and said, “A woman whose three children died would be screened from the Hell Fire by them," Hearing that, a woman asked, "If two died?" The Prophet replied, "Even two (would screen her from the (Hell) Fire." And Abu Huraira added, "Those children should be below the age of puberty."
[Reported by Al-Bukhari and Al-Nasa'i]
The Prophet said, "No Muslim whose three children died will go to the Fire except for Allah's oath (i.e. everyone has to pass over the bridge above the lake of fire)."
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
"A Muslim whose three children die before the age of puberty will be granted Paradise by Allah due to his mercy for them."
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
Intercession of Children for their Parents
Prophetic Hadiths:
Abu Hassan related, "I have two dead sons. I said to Abu Hurairah, "I heard a Hadith from the Prophet (pbuh) that relieves what we get of sorrow upon the dead. He said, "Yes of Course." Children who die young when meeting their parents (on the Day of Judgement) will take hold of their garments or hands until they enter Paradise altogether.
[Reported by Muslim]
A Wife Should Relieve the Misfortune of Her Husband
Prophetic Hadiths:
`Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) related, `Abu Talha had a son who fell ill and died while Abu Talha was outdoors. Abu Talha did not know about the death of his son. Umm Talha covered the child and laid him aside in the house.
When Abu Talha went home, he asked her about the child and she said, "He is very quite." Then she brought him dinner and slept with him." In the morning, Abu Talha had a bath and got ready to leave. Then, Umm Talha told him that his son had died.
He went out to perform prayer with the Prophet (pbuh). Having performed the prayer, he told him what had happened. The Prophet (pbuh) said, "May Allah bless your last night." In that night she got pregnant. When she gave birth, she sent the child to the Prophet (pbuh) who chewed a date and then rubbed the child's mouth. The Prophet (pbuh) called him “Abdullah."
[Reported by Bukhari]
It was narrated that of the progeny of that child there were seven boys who finished memorizing the Glorious Qur'an
Obedience to One's Parents
Qur'anic verses:
{Thy Lord has decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them but address them in terms of honor. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.[9]}
[Al-Isra': 23-24]
{And remember We took a covenant from the children of Israel (to this effect): Worship none but Allah; Treat with kindness your parents and kindred, and orphans and those in need; speak fair to the people; be steadfast in prayer; and give Zakat, then did turn back, except a few among you, and ye backslider (even now).}
[Al-Baqarah: 83]
{And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: In travail upon travail did his mother bear him. And in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: To Me is thy final goal.}
[Luqman: 14]
{We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: In pain did his mother bear him and in pain did she give him birth. The carrying of the (child) to his weaning is a period of thirty months.}
[Al-Ahqaf: 15]
Prophetic Hadiths:
"Shall I not tell you of the worst major sins? Worshipping others with Allah and showing disrespect to parents"
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
"Someone came to the Prophet (pbuh) and asked, "Who deserves my service most (after Allah)? The Prophet (pbuh) replied, "Your mother." "Who is next'?" the man asked again. "Your mother," the Prophet (pbuh) replied. "Who is next?" the man asked once more. "Your mother," the Prophet (pbuh) replied. "Who is next?" the man further asked. "Your father," the Prophet (pbuh) replied.
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
Allah’s Apostle (pbuh) said:
"Let him be humbled into dust; let him be humbled into dust. It was said: Allah's Messenger, who is he? He said: He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise."
[Reported by Muslim]
A man came and said to the Prophet (pbuh),
"O Messenger of Allah, my father asks for my property." Then the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Both you and what you possess are your father's."
[Reported by Ahmad]
"Allah has forbidden showing disrespect to one's mother"
[Reported by Al-Bukhari]
[1] How great is that companion of the Prophet! He did not postpone fighting in the cause of Allah until he have a bath because after having sexual relation with his bride. He was newly married. It might be the first time to have sex with his bride. Yet, he preferred to respond to Allah’s call so that he might be killed as a martyr and gain what is beyond the human pleasure and felicity.
[2] Abu Bakr Callie and sought permission to see Allah’s Messenger (pbuh). He found people sitting at his door and none amongst them had been granted permission, but it was granted to Abu Bakr and he went in. Then came Umar and he sought permission and it was granted to him and he found Allah's Apostle (pbuh) sitting sad and silent with his wives around him. He (Umar) said: I wanted say something which would make the Holy Prophet (pbuh) laugh, so he said: Messenger of Allah, I wish you had seen (the treatment meted out to) the daughter of Khadijah when she asked me for some money, and I got up and slapped her on her neck. Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) laughed and said: They are around me as you see, asking for extra money. Abu Bakr then got up, went to Aisha (Allah be pleased with her) and slapped her on the neck, and Umar stood up before Hafsah and slapped her saying: You ask Allah's Messenger (pbuh) for that which he does not possess. They said: By Allah, we do not ask Allah's Messenger (pbuh) for anything he does not possess. Then he withdrew from them for a month or for twenty-nine days. Then this verse was revealed to him:
{O Prophet! Say to thy consorts: if it be that ye desire the life of this world, and its glitter then come! I will provide for your enjoyment and set you free in a handsome manner. But if ye seek Allah and His Messenger, and the Home of the Hereafter, verily Allah has prepared for the well-doers amongst you a great reward.}
[Al-Ahzab: 28]
He then went to Aisha and said: I want to propound something to you, Aisha, but want no hasty reply before you consult your parents. She said: Messenger of Allah, what is that? He (the Holy Prophet) recited to her the verse, whereupon she said: Is it about you that I should consult my parents, Messenger of Allah? Nay, I choose Allah, His Messenger, and the Last Abode; but I ask you not to tell any of your wives what I have said. He replied: Not one of them will ask me without my informing her. God did not send me to be harsh, or cause harm, but He sent me to teach and make things easy.
[3] The above hadith indicates that it permissible to take what is necessary of the husband’s property.
[4] Circumcision is one of the protective procedures that protect one against many diseases. Cutting the foreskin of the baby’s penis or the foreskin of the girl’s clitoris protects one from harmful secretion. It enables the front part of the penis to move about freely. It protects one against cancer. Unintentional urination does not affect the circumcised baby. Circumcised youth do not addict to masturbation. Circumcised men have sex with their wives longer than the uncircumcised.
[5] Parents are created loving their children. They give them great concern, affection and care. Without such an innate love, the parents might not keep patient to rear their children. Those who do not love their children are surly odd people. Children need love and care to be brought up in a wholesome manner.
The Prophet (pbuh) set a great example in rearing his children. He treated them kindly and affectionately.
[6] This tribulation Occurs when one’s children or wife preoccupy his mind and take him from the way of Allah. He might work day and night in order to give them what they want and forget the main goals for which he was created.
[7] A woman is man's sister and half of humanity. She is a mother, wife, daughter, sister, aunt, grand daughter or grand mother. The Prophet said, what translated means, Women are, indeed, men's partners. [Abu Dawud]. She is a member of the great nation of Islam, the best nation ever produced for mankind. No other nation on earth has more great men, leaders and conquerors than this nation. It is the nation of guidance and the straight religion, and it leads humanity to righteousness and truth. It transforms people from worshippers of slaves to worshippers of the Lord of slaves, from life's pressures to the pleasures of the Life after, and from the injustice of other religions to the justice of Islam.
A woman was also one of the main reasons for this great nation to take this great place among all nations. Allah, Who granted Islam to this nation, made a high place for Muslim women, and decreed that they share in the responsibilities of enjoining truth, forbidding evil and raising the flag of Islam. He said, what translated means, The believers, men and women, are loyalists of one another, they enjoin righteousness and forbid evil, they offer their prayers perfectly and give the Zakat, and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah will leave His Mercy on them. Surely Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise. [9:71]
Allah has given Muslim women what they can bare of orders and duties. He is the God Wl10 knows His creation, Should He not know what He created? And He is the Most Kind, All-Aware (of everything). [67:14]
They call upon the woman today to truly become an active member of the Muslim nation, strive to establish victory for Allah's Word, implement the Quran and help build the generation of Iman.
[8] The above Hadith indicates that men and women are equal. Islam affirms the equality of men and women as human beings. This, however, does not entail non-differentiation of their respective roles and functions in society. Islam disapproves of the tree mixing of the sexes and regards this as conflicting with the role it assigns to the family in society. The primary responsibility of woman is to concentrate on the home and the family, and all that is required to operate and develop these institutions. She also has certain social responsibilities, rights and duties, but her primary concern is the family.
[9] Parents give so much to rear their children. They do not wait to be recompensed by their children. They, naturally, do this out of love and affection. Therefore, we should be grateful to them. The fortunate is the one who pleases his parents. Let us now read a message written by a girl to her mother after she gave birth to her first child.
"Mother! I love you. I love you. I love you. I have never sensed that kind of love before. Everything that surrounds me fills my heart by love. I love you all the time. But I have just realized what love is. While a child, I was perplexed when seeing you worried about me and my brothers and sisters. You gave so much that you preferred us to yourself'.
When I heard the first cry of my baby, I knew how much you suffered and how much you loved me”.