The Bride's Boon

Islam and Love

Marriage, the Best Bond for the Lovers[1]

 

Prophetic Hadiths:

 

Ibn `Abbas (may Allah have mercy on them both) related that a man came to the Prophet (pbuh) and said O Messenger of Allah! I am a guardian of an orphan girl. Two men betrothed that girl: one of them is wealthy and the other is poor. We like to give her to the wealthy but she wants the poor! The Prophet said, Marriage is the best thing for lovers.

[Reported by Ibn Majah]

 

 

 

Hard Love

 

Qur’anic verses:

 

{Our Lord! Lay not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear.}

[Al-Baqarah: 286]

 

{Man was created weak (in resolution)}

[Al-Nisa’:28]

 

{When they him, they did extol him, and in their (amazement) cut their hands: they said, Allah preserve us! No mortal is this! This is none other than a noble angel}

[Yusuf: 31]

 

Prophetic Hadiths:

 

'Amr ibn Al-'As related Once the Prophet (pbuh) sent me as a leader of an army in which there was Abu Bakr and `Umar as soldiers. When I came back, I asked the Prophet (pbuh)   O Allah’s Messenger! Who do love most? Why, the Prophet (pbuh) asked. 'Amr said, I would like to know. The Prophet (pbuh) answered, 'Aisha. 'Amr said, I mean from among men. The Prophet (pbuh) said, her father.

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

 

Ibn 'Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) related,

Barira’s[2] husband was a slave called Mughith as if I see him now, going behind Barira and weeping with his tears flowing down his beard. The Prophet (pbuh) said to 'Abbas, O 'Abbas! Are you not astonished at the love of f Mughith for Barira and the hatred of Barira for Mughith!'? Then the Prophet (pbuh) said, Why do not you return to him'? She said, O Allah’s Messenger! Do you order me to do so? He said, No, I only intercede for him. She said, I am not in need of him.

[Reported by Al-Bukhari]

 

 

 

[1] Love does not mean the lustful desire. This is a false love. No sooner does a man desire a woman than he hates her after satisfying himself. Love, which is mainly portrayed in romantic stories, is just a kind of fiction and dreams. Love only grows between spouses. As years pass, company and kind treatment enhance such love. Real love gradually replaces the illusive love.

[2] Barira was a bondwoman. She got married to Mughith. When she regained her freedom, she was given the choice either to remain a servant with her husband or to separate him. She preferred to tree herself from the bondage of slavery.